4 Steps to Bounce Back

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Your setback is a setup for your comeback!

For a good chunk of my childhood, I was not allowed to watch TV. Seriously. I mean, my family did not own a TV set, we did not have cable for the longest time. I didn’t get to indulge in what was a normal part of daily entertainment for most people. So, it’s no surprise that I tend to get the side eye and a mixed look of humor, confusion and pity, when people discover that I am oblivious to many of the “must see” movies and TV shows that were popular in the 90’s. When comparing my lack of knowledge of TV shows and movies to other 24 year old’s, you’d probably assume that I just lived under a rock for most of my childhood. Yeah, so, it’s also no surprise that my love for Superhero movies did not develop until, well, this year actually.

Yes, I confess: I love superhero movies. By no means am I a fanatic, but I just might pick one over a romantic comedy any day. The reason I’ve taken to these movies so quickly, is the whole concept of having skills and abilities that no one else has. Being a game-changer. Having an IT factor. Something that separates you from everybody else. Let’s just say, superheros may have just become my new inspiration. And, I might add, this began before the debut of Black Panther! #WakandaForever .. Nevertheless, I have found inspiration, in the fact that Batman, Superman, Wonder Woman, Black Panther, Spider-Man, Deadpool, Aquaman, Thor, the list goes on, may have similar or differing powers, but they share something in common… The ability to bounce back!

As cheesy as it may sound, I honestly believe that we should all operate as if we have the mindset of a superhero. We all have something unique about us that sets us apart from everybody else that goes way beyond our fingerprint. We all have an IT factor. We are all game changers. But, it’s up to us to discover what our IT factor is, to embrace it and use it to change the game. And, whenever you decide to step out on faith and change the game, to make a difference in this world, to leave and imprint and a legacy.. You will experience setbacks. That is non-negotiable. But, like a superhero, we have the ability to bounce back.

For every action, there is a reaction. For every problem, there is a solution. For every setback, there is a comeback. It’s up to you to execute!

Let’s be honest, bouncing back is easier said than done. So, here are 4 steps that you can take to bounce back.

Have a Pity Party

1) Have a Pity Party! Allow yourself time to embrace/accept what has happened. Literally, set aside time to do just that. You can also use this time to reflect. Ask yourself, what can you learn from the experience? Every experience is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as a person.

Have a Pity Party

2) Live in the moment! Stop Reflecting on the Past. You’ve already done that. Now it’s time to move forward.So, stop worrying about the future, which you can’t change. And, don’t worry about the future, because your attitude and actions NOW is what will affect your LATER. Just be in the moment. Embrace the moment. Accept it for what it is and just breathe.

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3) Relax. Rest. Sleep..  Studies have show that feeling emotionally or mentally fatigued can cause perceived physical exhaustion. Sometimes it pays to be selfish, go into hibernation and just relax, recharge and revive your energy!

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4) Jump off a cliff! Okay, not literally. But, Do get back out there. Do keep going and don’t look back. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to begin again, because there is no perfect moment. If you wait until you feel comfortable, you may end up waiting for forever. Sometimes, you have to just go for it.. jump back in and see what happens.

Take the necessary steps to bounce back. And, always remember, it is a process. 

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3 Ways to Live Your Best Life

3 Ways to_The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams._

Do you feel stagnant or stuck? Do you feel like you’re living life according to someone else’s blueprint? So, its as if you’re just going through the motions?

If your answer is yes, then I bet that all you really want is to get unstuck and live your best life. All you want is to be happy, successful and thrive in life! And you know what, you’re not alone. In some way, shape and form, we are all striving to attain happiness. Now, happiness doesn’t look the same for everybody, because the definition varies person to person. But, regardless of how we each define happiness, we are all in pursuit of happiness. We all want to live a fulfilled life.

When you are living your best life, you are living life on your own terms. You know who you are, you know what you want out of life and you are taking the necessary actions in order to attain what it is that you want out of life. Now, I will just tell you right now, that in order to live your best life, you have to have the right mindset. In other words, you have to believe that it is possible. That you can be happy in life and that you can live your best life, whatever that means to you.

No matter what happiness and living your best life looks like for you, there are 3 things that are essential to your ability to live your best life.

Here is what you must do:

 

 

 

1) Be Intentional about what you think, say and do, where you go and who you spend time with. What you choose to do today is an investment in  your tomorrow! Live your life on your own terms by discovering who you are and what you want out of life. Then, set goals around your desires and aspirations and take action!

2) Invest in yourself by reading self-help/personal development books, attend seminars, conferences and networking events. Place yourself in environments that allows you to expand your horizons. Meet new people and try new things on a consistent basis. These are all things that you can do to increase your knowledge and skills and will create awareness of resources that are available to you to use in order to reach your next level in life! Being your best self goes hand in hand with living your best life. Investing in yourself + investing in your dreams = being your best self and living your best life!

3) Fear-less! Do at least one thing every day that scares you or that you are initially hesitant to do. By doing this, you are conquering your fears and building your confidence. This is necessary, because living your best life, usually means living your dream life. And, to do that, most often, you have to live outside of your comfort zone! You have to think and operate outside the box and be willing to take risks. If you let fear dictate your future, then you will not live outside of your comfort zone.

By being intentional, investing in yourself and living fearlessly, you are setting yourself up for success! You have the opportunity to live your best life, now. And you can start by doing those 3 things, consistently. Create a lifestyle, rather than a habit out of doing those three things. Eventually, you will begin to see results.

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