How to Get Unstuck: Successfully Pursue and Achieve your Goals!

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Did you make a resolution or set a goal(s) at the beginning of the year? If so, where are you now? Are you currently working towards your goal or have you already thrown in the towel? According to research, 80% of New Years resolutions fall through by February! Why is that?

Let’s be real, most goals come with its own set of challenges. It can be an uphill battle. But, I will tell you this.. The difference between those who successfully reach their goal and those who do not, is their mindset! They’re mindset is different. Different how? Glad you asked. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “mindset is everything” countless times already. So much so, that it’s probably just another cliché’ to you. But, many cliché’s hold a whole lot of truth. As does this one. Your mindset determines whether or not you will be successful in life or not. A lot of times we place the blame, for our lack of success or consistency on luck, circumstances or other people. But, the truth is, we have more control than most realize. You have more control over your results/outcome than you realize.  People and circumstances, both the good, bad and the ugly, only have the power to influence. Influence what exactly? Our actions or inaction. How we react to the people and things that happen in our lives is what defines us. It’s not the event that defines who we are; it’s our reaction to it that defines who we are and determines our success or failure.

If you have found yourself giving up and throwing in the towel, when it comes to accomplishing your goals, then you may agree that you got stuck along the way. It’s not that the desire to reach that goal has dissipated. It’s just that life happened and influenced your inaction. Your inaction is a direct effect of your mindset.  In my new book, Empower You, I talk a lot about developing a positive, success mindset. This kind of mindset is the kind of mindset that will enable you to keep going, despite a lack of motivation, a lack of support, etc. If you’d like to learn more about developing a success mindset that will help you successfully pursue your goals, then I invite you to grab your copy of my book! Just click HERE.

I am sure that you set your goal for a reason. So, if you’ve temporarily put the pursuit of your goal on hold, then I encourage you to learn how to get unstuck! Too many people have lived and died, without going after their dreams. And, I am certain that a good amount of those individuals did not have a positive, success mindset and likely gave up when they got stuck , assuming that they tried at all. I’m just saying. With all that being said, I don’t want you to ever feel like you won’t ever be able to reach your goals because you feel stuck. Understand that pursuing your goal is a process. And, depending on the goal, it likely won’t happen overnight. Feeling stuck is a part of the process. Your success is dependent on your ability to overcome setbacks, overwhelm and feelings like feeling stuck! Here are 3 things that you can do to get unstuck!

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1) Unwind. Take time to relax and unwind. Do something that is unrelated to your goals and dreams, but is something that you thoroughly enjoy. Go on a staycation or vacation if possible. Do something or go somewhere that will allow for a change of scenery. I suggest doing this, because often times, getting a change of scenery and a change of pace can help to de-clutter your mind and relax mentally and emotionally. Relax your body and your mind should begin to relax as well. Try yoga, meditation or prayer. Try detoxing or going on a fast or cleanse. Sometimes, giving your physical body rest and re-boot can have a direct effect on your mentality as well. Put yourself in position to start fresh.

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2) Embrace where you are. Be honest with yourself about where you stand in the pursuit of your goals. Take full responsibility for your actions or inaction. Acknowledge the problem or mistake. Instead of placing the blame on other people and circumstances, shine the light on yourself. Instead of deflecting and avoiding your reality and what it is that you really want to have or where you desire to be, face it. Embrace every experience that has led you to this moment in time, right here, right now. Accept it for what it is. A learning opportunity. Make up in your mind that you are going to move forward. Decide that you are going to keep going!

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3) Shift your perspective. As mentioned before, mindset is everything! Your mindset is the sum of your attitude/beliefs about something or someone. How do you perceive your goal and your ability to pursue and accomplish that goal? If you are feeling like your goal is difficult to reach, then I suggest a do-over. Go back and re-write that goal and ensure that you have constructed a SMART goal. A SMART goal is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant or realistic and trackable! Check out my Set Goals & Slay Starter pack for help in setting strategic goals for success! (Click HERE)

It’s okay to feel stuck. It is a part of the process. It is common. But, it is up to you to decide not to stay there. Getting stuck is often inevitable, but staying stuck is a choice! You have more control, more say-so in the matter than you may have realized initially. No one can pursue your dream for you. Don’t give people or circumstances more power over your goals and dreams than they really have. They only have as much power as you allow them to have. Really, they only have the power to influence your action or inaction.

Take back your power! Don’t stay stuck! Take action!

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You Don’t Have to Wait..

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Ugghh! I use to HATE hearing people say that “happiness is a choice.” I hated it. I didn’t understand how that was possible.

For 90% of my childhood, I was the shy, lonely, nerd who was just unhappy. Throughout my teenage years, I was miserable. Struggled with low self-esteem, depression.. And most of the time, I felt invisible. Sure, I laughed & smiled but deep down I wasn’t happy. So yeah, I didn’t get how happiness could possibly be a choice. I wanted to be happy. I just didn’t realize that I could be.

As a teen, I was the queen of negativity! I murmured & complained about anything and everything. I struggled to see the good in people and situations. I made MY mediocre problems bigger than they really were. I can’t pinpoint exactly when a shift occurred, but I can tell you that once the shift happened, my whole life changed.

The shift was in my mindset. Once that changed, my perspective of everything going on in my life changed. My perspective shifted & I began to see things through a more positive lense. The people & situations didn’t change, but the way I perceived them did!!

Regardless of what was going on, I became happier. I became content. I discovered my worth, passion and purpose. I found a genuine reason to be happy that wasn’t based on a particular person or thing 🙌

It’s true when they say, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind… Check out my latest blog post for 4 ways you can transform your mindset in order to become a more positive person.

I have a new book out called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind! It is a great read for those who are struggling with negative thinking or lack motivation. Empower You  will help you get motivated, get focused, slay your goals & to strategically align yourself with what you desire & with what you’ve been created to do in life! You can grab your copy today by clicking the link below. 

4 Steps to Bounce Back

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Your setback is a setup for your comeback!

For a good chunk of my childhood, I was not allowed to watch TV. Seriously. I mean, my family did not own a TV set, we did not have cable for the longest time. I didn’t get to indulge in what was a normal part of daily entertainment for most people. So, it’s no surprise that I tend to get the side eye and a mixed look of humor, confusion and pity, when people discover that I am oblivious to many of the “must see” movies and TV shows that were popular in the 90’s. When comparing my lack of knowledge of TV shows and movies to other 24 year old’s, you’d probably assume that I just lived under a rock for most of my childhood. Yeah, so, it’s also no surprise that my love for Superhero movies did not develop until, well, this year actually.

Yes, I confess: I love superhero movies. By no means am I a fanatic, but I just might pick one over a romantic comedy any day. The reason I’ve taken to these movies so quickly, is the whole concept of having skills and abilities that no one else has. Being a game-changer. Having an IT factor. Something that separates you from everybody else. Let’s just say, superheros may have just become my new inspiration. And, I might add, this began before the debut of Black Panther! #WakandaForever .. Nevertheless, I have found inspiration, in the fact that Batman, Superman, Wonder Woman, Black Panther, Spider-Man, Deadpool, Aquaman, Thor, the list goes on, may have similar or differing powers, but they share something in common… The ability to bounce back!

As cheesy as it may sound, I honestly believe that we should all operate as if we have the mindset of a superhero. We all have something unique about us that sets us apart from everybody else that goes way beyond our fingerprint. We all have an IT factor. We are all game changers. But, it’s up to us to discover what our IT factor is, to embrace it and use it to change the game. And, whenever you decide to step out on faith and change the game, to make a difference in this world, to leave and imprint and a legacy.. You will experience setbacks. That is non-negotiable. But, like a superhero, we have the ability to bounce back.

For every action, there is a reaction. For every problem, there is a solution. For every setback, there is a comeback. It’s up to you to execute!

Let’s be honest, bouncing back is easier said than done. So, here are 4 steps that you can take to bounce back.

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1) Have a Pity Party! Allow yourself time to embrace/accept what has happened. Literally, set aside time to do just that. You can also use this time to reflect. Ask yourself, what can you learn from the experience? Every experience is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as a person.

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2) Live in the moment! Stop Reflecting on the Past. You’ve already done that. Now it’s time to move forward.So, stop worrying about the future, which you can’t change. And, don’t worry about the future, because your attitude and actions NOW is what will affect your LATER. Just be in the moment. Embrace the moment. Accept it for what it is and just breathe.

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3) Relax. Rest. Sleep..  Studies have show that feeling emotionally or mentally fatigued can cause perceived physical exhaustion. Sometimes it pays to be selfish, go into hibernation and just relax, recharge and revive your energy!

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4) Jump off a cliff! Okay, not literally. But, Do get back out there. Do keep going and don’t look back. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to begin again, because there is no perfect moment. If you wait until you feel comfortable, you may end up waiting for forever. Sometimes, you have to just go for it.. jump back in and see what happens.

Take the necessary steps to bounce back. And, always remember, it is a process. 

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3 Ways to Live Your Best Life

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Do you feel stagnant or stuck? Do you feel like you’re living life according to someone else’s blueprint? So, its as if you’re just going through the motions?

If your answer is yes, then I bet that all you really want is to get unstuck and live your best life. All you want is to be happy, successful and thrive in life! And you know what, you’re not alone. In some way, shape and form, we are all striving to attain happiness. Now, happiness doesn’t look the same for everybody, because the definition varies person to person. But, regardless of how we each define happiness, we are all in pursuit of happiness. We all want to live a fulfilled life.

When you are living your best life, you are living life on your own terms. You know who you are, you know what you want out of life and you are taking the necessary actions in order to attain what it is that you want out of life. Now, I will just tell you right now, that in order to live your best life, you have to have the right mindset. In other words, you have to believe that it is possible. That you can be happy in life and that you can live your best life, whatever that means to you.

No matter what happiness and living your best life looks like for you, there are 3 things that are essential to your ability to live your best life.

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1) Be Intentional about what you think, say and do, where you go and who you spend time with. What you choose to do today is an investment in  your tomorrow! Live your life on your own terms by discovering who you are and what you want out of life. Then, set goals around your desires and aspirations and take action!

2) Invest in yourself by reading self-help/personal development books, attend seminars, conferences and networking events. Place yourself in environments that allows you to expand your horizons. Meet new people and try new things on a consistent basis. These are all things that you can do to increase your knowledge and skills and will create awareness of resources that are available to you to use in order to reach your next level in life! Being your best self goes hand in hand with living your best life. Investing in yourself + investing in your dreams = being your best self and living your best life!

3) Fear-less! Do at least one thing every day that scares you or that you are initially hesitant to do. By doing this, you are conquering your fears and building your confidence. This is necessary, because living your best life, usually means living your dream life. And, to do that, most often, you have to live outside of your comfort zone! You have to think and operate outside the box and be willing to take risks. If you let fear dictate your future, then you will not live outside of your comfort zone.

By being intentional, investing in yourself and living fearlessly, you are setting yourself up for success! You have the opportunity to live your best life, now. And you can start by doing those 3 things, consistently. Create a lifestyle, rather than a habit out of doing those three things. Eventually, you will begin to see results.

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