How to Get Unstuck: Successfully Pursue and Achieve your Goals!

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Did you make a resolution or set a goal(s) at the beginning of the year? If so, where are you now? Are you currently working towards your goal or have you already thrown in the towel? According to research, 80% of New Years resolutions fall through by February! Why is that?

Let’s be real, most goals come with its own set of challenges. It can be an uphill battle. But, I will tell you this.. The difference between those who successfully reach their goal and those who do not, is their mindset! They’re mindset is different. Different how? Glad you asked. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, “mindset is everything” countless times already. So much so, that it’s probably just another cliché’ to you. But, many cliché’s hold a whole lot of truth. As does this one. Your mindset determines whether or not you will be successful in life or not. A lot of times we place the blame, for our lack of success or consistency on luck, circumstances or other people. But, the truth is, we have more control than most realize. You have more control over your results/outcome than you realize.  People and circumstances, both the good, bad and the ugly, only have the power to influence. Influence what exactly? Our actions or inaction. How we react to the people and things that happen in our lives is what defines us. It’s not the event that defines who we are; it’s our reaction to it that defines who we are and determines our success or failure.

If you have found yourself giving up and throwing in the towel, when it comes to accomplishing your goals, then you may agree that you got stuck along the way. It’s not that the desire to reach that goal has dissipated. It’s just that life happened and influenced your inaction. Your inaction is a direct effect of your mindset.  In my new book, Empower You, I talk a lot about developing a positive, success mindset. This kind of mindset is the kind of mindset that will enable you to keep going, despite a lack of motivation, a lack of support, etc. If you’d like to learn more about developing a success mindset that will help you successfully pursue your goals, then I invite you to grab your copy of my book! Just click HERE.

I am sure that you set your goal for a reason. So, if you’ve temporarily put the pursuit of your goal on hold, then I encourage you to learn how to get unstuck! Too many people have lived and died, without going after their dreams. And, I am certain that a good amount of those individuals did not have a positive, success mindset and likely gave up when they got stuck , assuming that they tried at all. I’m just saying. With all that being said, I don’t want you to ever feel like you won’t ever be able to reach your goals because you feel stuck. Understand that pursuing your goal is a process. And, depending on the goal, it likely won’t happen overnight. Feeling stuck is a part of the process. Your success is dependent on your ability to overcome setbacks, overwhelm and feelings like feeling stuck! Here are 3 things that you can do to get unstuck!

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1) Unwind. Take time to relax and unwind. Do something that is unrelated to your goals and dreams, but is something that you thoroughly enjoy. Go on a staycation or vacation if possible. Do something or go somewhere that will allow for a change of scenery. I suggest doing this, because often times, getting a change of scenery and a change of pace can help to de-clutter your mind and relax mentally and emotionally. Relax your body and your mind should begin to relax as well. Try yoga, meditation or prayer. Try detoxing or going on a fast or cleanse. Sometimes, giving your physical body rest and re-boot can have a direct effect on your mentality as well. Put yourself in position to start fresh.

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2) Embrace where you are. Be honest with yourself about where you stand in the pursuit of your goals. Take full responsibility for your actions or inaction. Acknowledge the problem or mistake. Instead of placing the blame on other people and circumstances, shine the light on yourself. Instead of deflecting and avoiding your reality and what it is that you really want to have or where you desire to be, face it. Embrace every experience that has led you to this moment in time, right here, right now. Accept it for what it is. A learning opportunity. Make up in your mind that you are going to move forward. Decide that you are going to keep going!

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3) Shift your perspective. As mentioned before, mindset is everything! Your mindset is the sum of your attitude/beliefs about something or someone. How do you perceive your goal and your ability to pursue and accomplish that goal? If you are feeling like your goal is difficult to reach, then I suggest a do-over. Go back and re-write that goal and ensure that you have constructed a SMART goal. A SMART goal is specific, measurable, achievable, relevant or realistic and trackable! Check out my Set Goals & Slay Starter pack for help in setting strategic goals for success! (Click HERE)

It’s okay to feel stuck. It is a part of the process. It is common. But, it is up to you to decide not to stay there. Getting stuck is often inevitable, but staying stuck is a choice! You have more control, more say-so in the matter than you may have realized initially. No one can pursue your dream for you. Don’t give people or circumstances more power over your goals and dreams than they really have. They only have as much power as you allow them to have. Really, they only have the power to influence your action or inaction.

Take back your power! Don’t stay stuck! Take action!

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The Beginning of the End

The 3 Days That Changed My Life..

Well, 1/4rth of it anyway!

I was stuck.

I had a dream, but I lacked a plan of action.

I did not have a plan tailored to my needs.

I was winging it and that didn’t work.

But in December of 2015, I attended a 3 day workshop that changed my life.

It changed my life, because it challenged and changed my mindset.

I walked away with new strategies to implement into my daily routine, that not only changed my mindset, but my results.

Change your mindset. Change your life.

I immediately began to insert the strategies that I learned into my daily routine.

I did not see overnight results, but I was consistent.

The biggest win was in my mindset.

I became more positive, more focused and more aware.

I became alert of negativity and I knew how to fight it mentally and emotionally.

In a nutshell, what I began to do is this:

I began to write down my goals is detail.

I began to rewrite those same goals everyday. I began to read those goals aloud every day.

I was consistent. I began to believe.

Initially, I didn’t know how it was going to happen.

Nevertheless, I took my goals and created a plan. That plan did not always work.

So, I would go back and make adjustments until I found a strategy that worked with my work-life balance.

The end result of my new habits were that my “then” goals became my “now” reality!

After two additional semesters of re-taking 1 course, Probability and Statistics, I finally graduated with my Bachelors of Science in Psychology.

I finished writing my 3rd book.

I became a more confident person. I began to love myself, flaws and all.

I moved out of my parents house and into my first apartment.

Despite unforeseen health and financial setbacks, I was able to maintain, overall, a positive mindset.

Not once did I allow myself to think, “Oh, I won’t be able to afford it” (bills, rent, etc.).

That’s because, I’d put in the work to build a positive mindset.

When negative thoughts pop up, I instantly recognize it, kick it to the curb and replace it with positivity.

Like most things, it takes practice and consistency to develop this habit.

This list is not extensive, but each of those accomplishments are huge for me.

Each of those goals I wrote down everyday.

Each of those goals, I spoke aloud as if I’d already achieved it. I did that everyday.

With each of my goals, my faith was tested. Each of those goals saw victory , no matter how long it took.

Again, it did not happen overnight.

I thought, with what I’d begun doing, that I would graduate that first semester.

Nope. I failed the class again (3rd time was a charm). I continued doing what I’d started.

I wrote my goals. I spoke my goals. I followed my plan of action.

Eventually, I saw results.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your goals are.

What matters is that you are strategic, consistent and motivated.

Those three days changed my life, because it initiated a change in the way that I think. And, mindset is everything. So, once you shift your mindset, your whole life can change! 

If you are lacking motivation or struggling to accomplish your goals, I encourage you to check out my new book “Empower You!” Empower You is a 70 day devotional for your mind that will motivate and inspire you to embrace your unique self, discover your passion + purpose and shift your mindset so that you can successfully pursue your goals, live your dream and ultimately live your life operating in your God given purpose. You can get your copy HERE.

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3 Ways to Live Your Best Life

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Do you feel stagnant or stuck? Do you feel like you’re living life according to someone else’s blueprint? So, its as if you’re just going through the motions?

If your answer is yes, then I bet that all you really want is to get unstuck and live your best life. All you want is to be happy, successful and thrive in life! And you know what, you’re not alone. In some way, shape and form, we are all striving to attain happiness. Now, happiness doesn’t look the same for everybody, because the definition varies person to person. But, regardless of how we each define happiness, we are all in pursuit of happiness. We all want to live a fulfilled life.

When you are living your best life, you are living life on your own terms. You know who you are, you know what you want out of life and you are taking the necessary actions in order to attain what it is that you want out of life. Now, I will just tell you right now, that in order to live your best life, you have to have the right mindset. In other words, you have to believe that it is possible. That you can be happy in life and that you can live your best life, whatever that means to you.

No matter what happiness and living your best life looks like for you, there are 3 things that are essential to your ability to live your best life.

Here is what you must do:

 

 

 

1) Be Intentional about what you think, say and do, where you go and who you spend time with. What you choose to do today is an investment in  your tomorrow! Live your life on your own terms by discovering who you are and what you want out of life. Then, set goals around your desires and aspirations and take action!

2) Invest in yourself by reading self-help/personal development books, attend seminars, conferences and networking events. Place yourself in environments that allows you to expand your horizons. Meet new people and try new things on a consistent basis. These are all things that you can do to increase your knowledge and skills and will create awareness of resources that are available to you to use in order to reach your next level in life! Being your best self goes hand in hand with living your best life. Investing in yourself + investing in your dreams = being your best self and living your best life!

3) Fear-less! Do at least one thing every day that scares you or that you are initially hesitant to do. By doing this, you are conquering your fears and building your confidence. This is necessary, because living your best life, usually means living your dream life. And, to do that, most often, you have to live outside of your comfort zone! You have to think and operate outside the box and be willing to take risks. If you let fear dictate your future, then you will not live outside of your comfort zone.

By being intentional, investing in yourself and living fearlessly, you are setting yourself up for success! You have the opportunity to live your best life, now. And you can start by doing those 3 things, consistently. Create a lifestyle, rather than a habit out of doing those three things. Eventually, you will begin to see results.

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