4 Steps to Bounce Back

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Your setback is a setup for your comeback!

For a good chunk of my childhood, I was not allowed to watch TV. Seriously. I mean, my family did not own a TV set, we did not have cable for the longest time. I didn’t get to indulge in what was a normal part of daily entertainment for most people. So, it’s no surprise that I tend to get the side eye and a mixed look of humor, confusion and pity, when people discover that I am oblivious to many of the “must see” movies and TV shows that were popular in the 90’s. When comparing my lack of knowledge of TV shows and movies to other 24 year old’s, you’d probably assume that I just lived under a rock for most of my childhood. Yeah, so, it’s also no surprise that my love for Superhero movies did not develop until, well, this year actually.

Yes, I confess: I love superhero movies. By no means am I a fanatic, but I just might pick one over a romantic comedy any day. The reason I’ve taken to these movies so quickly, is the whole concept of having skills and abilities that no one else has. Being a game-changer. Having an IT factor. Something that separates you from everybody else. Let’s just say, superheros may have just become my new inspiration. And, I might add, this began before the debut of Black Panther! #WakandaForever .. Nevertheless, I have found inspiration, in the fact that Batman, Superman, Wonder Woman, Black Panther, Spider-Man, Deadpool, Aquaman, Thor, the list goes on, may have similar or differing powers, but they share something in common… The ability to bounce back!

As cheesy as it may sound, I honestly believe that we should all operate as if we have the mindset of a superhero. We all have something unique about us that sets us apart from everybody else that goes way beyond our fingerprint. We all have an IT factor. We are all game changers. But, it’s up to us to discover what our IT factor is, to embrace it and use it to change the game. And, whenever you decide to step out on faith and change the game, to make a difference in this world, to leave and imprint and a legacy.. You will experience setbacks. That is non-negotiable. But, like a superhero, we have the ability to bounce back.

For every action, there is a reaction. For every problem, there is a solution. For every setback, there is a comeback. It’s up to you to execute!

Let’s be honest, bouncing back is easier said than done. So, here are 4 steps that you can take to bounce back.

Have a Pity Party

1) Have a Pity Party! Allow yourself time to embrace/accept what has happened. Literally, set aside time to do just that. You can also use this time to reflect. Ask yourself, what can you learn from the experience? Every experience is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve as a person.

Have a Pity Party

2) Live in the moment! Stop Reflecting on the Past. You’ve already done that. Now it’s time to move forward.So, stop worrying about the future, which you can’t change. And, don’t worry about the future, because your attitude and actions NOW is what will affect your LATER. Just be in the moment. Embrace the moment. Accept it for what it is and just breathe.

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3) Relax. Rest. Sleep..  Studies have show that feeling emotionally or mentally fatigued can cause perceived physical exhaustion. Sometimes it pays to be selfish, go into hibernation and just relax, recharge and revive your energy!

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4) Jump off a cliff! Okay, not literally. But, Do get back out there. Do keep going and don’t look back. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to begin again, because there is no perfect moment. If you wait until you feel comfortable, you may end up waiting for forever. Sometimes, you have to just go for it.. jump back in and see what happens.

Take the necessary steps to bounce back. And, always remember, it is a process. 

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The Beginning of the End

The 3 Days That Changed My Life..

Well, 1/4rth of it anyway!

I was stuck.

I had a dream, but I lacked a plan of action.

I did not have a plan tailored to my needs.

I was winging it and that didn’t work.

But in December of 2015, I attended a 3 day workshop that changed my life.

It changed my life, because it challenged and changed my mindset.

I walked away with new strategies to implement into my daily routine, that not only changed my mindset, but my results.

Change your mindset. Change your life.

I immediately began to insert the strategies that I learned into my daily routine.

I did not see overnight results, but I was consistent.

The biggest win was in my mindset.

I became more positive, more focused and more aware.

I became alert of negativity and I knew how to fight it mentally and emotionally.

In a nutshell, what I began to do is this:

I began to write down my goals is detail.

I began to rewrite those same goals everyday. I began to read those goals aloud every day.

I was consistent. I began to believe.

Initially, I didn’t know how it was going to happen.

Nevertheless, I took my goals and created a plan. That plan did not always work.

So, I would go back and make adjustments until I found a strategy that worked with my work-life balance.

The end result of my new habits were that my “then” goals became my “now” reality!

After two additional semesters of re-taking 1 course, Probability and Statistics, I finally graduated with my Bachelors of Science in Psychology.

I finished writing my 3rd book.

I became a more confident person. I began to love myself, flaws and all.

I moved out of my parents house and into my first apartment.

Despite unforeseen health and financial setbacks, I was able to maintain, overall, a positive mindset.

Not once did I allow myself to think, “Oh, I won’t be able to afford it” (bills, rent, etc.).

That’s because, I’d put in the work to build a positive mindset.

When negative thoughts pop up, I instantly recognize it, kick it to the curb and replace it with positivity.

Like most things, it takes practice and consistency to develop this habit.

This list is not extensive, but each of those accomplishments are huge for me.

Each of those goals I wrote down everyday.

Each of those goals, I spoke aloud as if I’d already achieved it. I did that everyday.

With each of my goals, my faith was tested. Each of those goals saw victory , no matter how long it took.

Again, it did not happen overnight.

I thought, with what I’d begun doing, that I would graduate that first semester.

Nope. I failed the class again (3rd time was a charm). I continued doing what I’d started.

I wrote my goals. I spoke my goals. I followed my plan of action.

Eventually, I saw results.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your goals are.

What matters is that you are strategic, consistent and motivated.

Those three days changed my life, because it initiated a change in the way that I think. And, mindset is everything. So, once you shift your mindset, your whole life can change! 

If you are lacking motivation or struggling to accomplish your goals, I encourage you to check out my new book “Empower You!” Empower You is a 70 day devotional for your mind that will motivate and inspire you to embrace your unique self, discover your passion + purpose and shift your mindset so that you can successfully pursue your goals, live your dream and ultimately live your life operating in your God given purpose. You can get your copy HERE.

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