You Don’t Have to Wait..

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Ugghh! I use to HATE hearing people say that “happiness is a choice.” I hated it. I didn’t understand how that was possible.

For 90% of my childhood, I was the shy, lonely, nerd who was just unhappy. Throughout my teenage years, I was miserable. Struggled with low self-esteem, depression.. And most of the time, I felt invisible. Sure, I laughed & smiled but deep down I wasn’t happy. So yeah, I didn’t get how happiness could possibly be a choice. I wanted to be happy. I just didn’t realize that I could be.

As a teen, I was the queen of negativity! I murmured & complained about anything and everything. I struggled to see the good in people and situations. I made MY mediocre problems bigger than they really were. I can’t pinpoint exactly when a shift occurred, but I can tell you that once the shift happened, my whole life changed.

The shift was in my mindset. Once that changed, my perspective of everything going on in my life changed. My perspective shifted & I began to see things through a more positive lense. The people & situations didn’t change, but the way I perceived them did!!

Regardless of what was going on, I became happier. I became content. I discovered my worth, passion and purpose. I found a genuine reason to be happy that wasn’t based on a particular person or thing 🙌

It’s true when they say, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind… Check out my latest blog post for 4 ways you can transform your mindset in order to become a more positive person.

I have a new book out called Empower You! Mindset Transformation: A Daily Devotional for the Mind! It is a great read for those who are struggling with negative thinking or lack motivation. Empower You  will help you get motivated, get focused, slay your goals & to strategically align yourself with what you desire & with what you’ve been created to do in life! You can grab your copy today by clicking the link below. 

The Beginning of the End

The 3 Days That Changed My Life..

Well, 1/4rth of it anyway!

I was stuck.

I had a dream, but I lacked a plan of action.

I did not have a plan tailored to my needs.

I was winging it and that didn’t work.

But in December of 2015, I attended a 3 day workshop that changed my life.

It changed my life, because it challenged and changed my mindset.

I walked away with new strategies to implement into my daily routine, that not only changed my mindset, but my results.

Change your mindset. Change your life.

I immediately began to insert the strategies that I learned into my daily routine.

I did not see overnight results, but I was consistent.

The biggest win was in my mindset.

I became more positive, more focused and more aware.

I became alert of negativity and I knew how to fight it mentally and emotionally.

In a nutshell, what I began to do is this:

I began to write down my goals is detail.

I began to rewrite those same goals everyday. I began to read those goals aloud every day.

I was consistent. I began to believe.

Initially, I didn’t know how it was going to happen.

Nevertheless, I took my goals and created a plan. That plan did not always work.

So, I would go back and make adjustments until I found a strategy that worked with my work-life balance.

The end result of my new habits were that my “then” goals became my “now” reality!

After two additional semesters of re-taking 1 course, Probability and Statistics, I finally graduated with my Bachelors of Science in Psychology.

I finished writing my 3rd book.

I became a more confident person. I began to love myself, flaws and all.

I moved out of my parents house and into my first apartment.

Despite unforeseen health and financial setbacks, I was able to maintain, overall, a positive mindset.

Not once did I allow myself to think, “Oh, I won’t be able to afford it” (bills, rent, etc.).

That’s because, I’d put in the work to build a positive mindset.

When negative thoughts pop up, I instantly recognize it, kick it to the curb and replace it with positivity.

Like most things, it takes practice and consistency to develop this habit.

This list is not extensive, but each of those accomplishments are huge for me.

Each of those goals I wrote down everyday.

Each of those goals, I spoke aloud as if I’d already achieved it. I did that everyday.

With each of my goals, my faith was tested. Each of those goals saw victory , no matter how long it took.

Again, it did not happen overnight.

I thought, with what I’d begun doing, that I would graduate that first semester.

Nope. I failed the class again (3rd time was a charm). I continued doing what I’d started.

I wrote my goals. I spoke my goals. I followed my plan of action.

Eventually, I saw results.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your goals are.

What matters is that you are strategic, consistent and motivated.

Those three days changed my life, because it initiated a change in the way that I think. And, mindset is everything. So, once you shift your mindset, your whole life can change! 

If you are lacking motivation or struggling to accomplish your goals, I encourage you to check out my new book “Empower You!” Empower You is a 70 day devotional for your mind that will motivate and inspire you to embrace your unique self, discover your passion + purpose and shift your mindset so that you can successfully pursue your goals, live your dream and ultimately live your life operating in your God given purpose. You can get your copy HERE.

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